How to get your spouse aboard your gain train

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How to get your spouse aboard your gain train

I get this all the time: 

“I’m so ready for a change, but how do I get my significant other involved in my health and wellness goals?”

It might not be that your partner is antagonistic or negative about your wellness journey — instead, maybe they just aren’t interested in making the same changes in their own life. And that might be fine for now, but if you’re serious about making big strides in your fitness and nutrition, this change will likely impact nearly every corner of your life; from the way you eat to your after-work activities to your social life and beyond. According to Eliza Kingsford, licensed psychotherapist and CEO of Empowered Wellness, “if not approached carefully with open lines of communication, a big change like this [health and fitness journeys] can cause a major disconnect for a pair”. 

So what happens when your significant other isn’t quite on board with your new CrossFit kick? Or they can’t completely understand why your fridge is suddenly packed with protein shakes and raw vegetables? What happens when one half of a couple jumps aboard the fitness train but the other half stays on the platform? 

Here are a few tips in navigating these waters; and how to help your spouse meet you where you are for the sake of health and fitness:

Communicate your needs

Yes. You are going to have to talk to each other. Let’s be honest, many of us have tried countless  things to improve our nutrition and/or see body changes. Many of those things are quick fixes that yield short term results and a resurgence of old habits. Share with your significant other that you are taking an honest long term approach and fill them in on your short and long term goals, your why for wanting to improve your health. Let in and let them know that you would love for them to be a part of it. Think of tangible, specific ways (helping cook, going to the gym together, verbally supporting you when you’re out with friends and you choose not to drink) they can support you and communicate those to them. 

Develop a shared list

Your significant other may not be ready for changing their eating habits right away. Acknowledge that this is their choice and that is A-OK. But, with being aware of your goals, you can keep communication lines open and start to come up with a shared grocery list. What are foods they want, what are foods that you want, and a challenge: what are a few healthy foods that you both are willing to try incorporating into meals that week? 

Find one thing

Your significant other may not be ready to dive head first into meal prep or CrossFit, but there are plenty of other ways to work together towards a healthy lifestyle. Find one wellness-promoting activity that you and your spouse can both get excited about! Make weekend hikes a habit. Maybe replace one night of TV a week with cooking a meal together. Heck, buy matching roller blades and hit the streets in your neighborhood! Compromise is key.

Give it time

From personal experience, I know what a disaster it can be when you try to force someone onto a journey they aren’t ready for. It rarely, if ever, goes well. If your S/O isn’t catching your newfound excitement, it’s perfectly fine. Stay consistent with your journey, avoid the temptation to apologize for your new lifestyle and continue to encourage your partner when there is space to do so. 

Make it fun

Planning date nights that incorporate healthy activities might sound lame at first, but it’s a great way to care for yourself and each other. Find a local cooking class with a healthy menu, plan an active date that includes tennis, dancing, create your own walking tour and explore a part of your city you’ve never been to, or, if you’re the hosting type, invite people over for a meal and fun mocktails!  The possibilities are endless — and this is a great way to remind your loved one that a healthy lifestyle is more than barbells and endless tupperware containers. 

Here at CrossFit Renew, we love doing whatever we can to care for the health of the whole person — including your relationship health! These are just a few places to start when trying to navigate how to include your significant other in your journey towards health and fitness — don’t be afraid to do what’s right for you and your relationship. You got this!  

Who wrote this post...

Chloe Mizianty

Chloe Mizianty

Chloe Mizianty is a former collegiate athlete turned strength training and functional movement fanatic. In 2016, she dove head first into the field of fitness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Chloe joined Renew in 2017 as an athlete while coaching with an outdoor boot-camp style fitness company, then formally joined the Renew team in 2022 as a personal trainer, nutrition coach, and pregnancy and postpartum coach. When she’s not in the gym, you can find her outside on the trails, on a paddleboard, or trying any of the hot dining spots with her husband. If she had it her way, Chloe would be staring out at the Pacific Ocean from her garage gym while doing the best benchmark workout ever: Linda.

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